I've been hearing and seeing the word "release" over and over for the last couple of months. The reoccurring theme has been the need to let go of the past hurt, trauma, pain and negative thoughts in order to make room for whats ahead of me. As a result, I’ve decided to truly focus on releasing anything that doesn’t serve me in order to make room for what does. Here are 6 tips I find to be extremely helpful in releasing.
Tip #1- Be kind to yourself. Releasing is a journey not a sprint. You will have your good days and your not so good moments, it’s ok. Be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself. The hurtful things of the past had an impact and this is not a competition of who is doing better than you. Stop comparing your journey to anyone else, be kind to yourself. Especially, if you have spent a lot of time focusing on this pain, talking about the pain or maybe even hiding the pain. It has worked it's way deep into your subconscious and you no longer have to even think about it for it to show it existence. As a result, the work of releasing will be a daily practice so be kind to yourself.
Tip #2 - Acknowledge that trauma occurred. Pretending that your past never happened is not helpful. Acknowledgment allows you to build a bridge for what comes next but you have to first acknowledge why the need for a bridge is needed in the first place. Hiding the pain of your past only gives these incidents a strong hold on you. Let out a good cry if you need to. By shedding light on the dark places the pain and stigma diminish over time.
Tip #3 - Become aware of the of low vibrating words that keep you stuck. The use of low vibrating vocabulary can keep you rehearsing, living and recreating the past. Words like, " I should, things never, bad things always happen to me, this pain will never go away, I am broken, I am not worthy, if only". Just in typing these words I felt my energy decrease. Our words set the intentions and energy of our days and life. So be careful with the intentions you are setting and the energy you are creating.
Tip #4 - Repeat daily affirmations to help you release unwanted and unknown energy blockers that are holding you back. Affirmations such as - "I am releasing and letting of the past. I release what no longer serves me and make room for what does. I release the past and make room for my bright future. Letting go comes easy to me. I release today and I live a happy, peaceful and free life."
Tip #5 - Rewrite your story from a different perspective. What good things that happened in your life despite or in spite of the bad that occurred? Yes, my mom gave birth to me at 16 years, my dad was in and out of my life, and I was molested by a teacher. Though these things are part of my story they are not all of it. I can rewrite my story and choose to focus my energy on the good and positive. Here is a rewrite of the same story. My mom gave birth to me at 16, taught me the value of education through her example we both obtain our master’s degrees. With her support I have traveled the world and taught aboard. I have also ran for public office, married to the love of my life and became a full-time entrepreneur. Same story different focus.
Tip #6- Practice grounding yourself. In Finally Full of Yourself: unlocking Your Spiritual DNA by Maria Salomao-Schmidt the author shares this grounding activity. “ Take a slow, deep breath now. Drop your shoulders. Pull in your core by tightening your stomach muscles until you feel your spine shift. Nice and easy. Release your breath if you are holding it in. If you notice tightness in your jaw, gently open and close it and move it from side to side. Take another deep breath. Picture a rock, any size or shape. Feel your “icky” energy fall away from you and feed it to that rock.” Feed that rock all of your shame, hurt, pain, regrets, and negative energy. Keep breathing deeply while repeating affirmations if you like. Practice this activity as often as you need to.
I encourage you to join me this month on releasing unwanted energy blockers AKA things, people or experiences that are holding you back, keeping you small, broken and unhealthy. It is time to make way for your healing, growth and happiness.